A quote from my friend, that is true.

There is a closing door in our life, we do not open it. Thus we try to open others doors first. At last we are standing in front of that door. That is only the earlier or later step.

That is so true, most likely it happened in our childhood. And we just covering it, and in the critical moment, that is the final point we need to face. Go back to that basic point, open it, understand it. Then you probably solve the problem that you are facing now.